Sunday, November 16, 2008

DATING TIPS Six Dating Behaviors That Scare Single Men Away


1. Trash-talking your ex. Don't talk negatively about an ex-boyfriend in front of a guy you're dating. I don't care if you're on your first date or on your 15th date with a guy, don't ever trash-talk your ex. Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time. So don't talk negatively about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if he ever becomes your ex that you're going to trash-talk him the same way. So, when a man asks you about your ex, you can politely say, "We are no longer together. It was a great relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot." That's it.

2. Paranoia runs rampant. Here you are dating a man you really like, and the first couple of weeks are going well. Then, that first boys' night out happens. In the beginning, you send him a text that says, "Have a great time tonight!" As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming in your mind about what he's doing, and you start to think "Is he cheating on me? Is he flirting with other women? Where is he right now?" So then, you lob another text in to him asking "What's going on? What are you doing right now?" Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his friends, you proceed to make a major blunder:
“You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night. This paranoia will push a man away.”
You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night. This paranoia will push a man away. So when you are dating a man and he's out with his friends, respect his "guy time" -- it will make you the cool woman he's always wanted to find.

3. Trash-talking other women. A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. You say, "Look how promiscuous that woman looks! I can't believe she is going around in public like that!" What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is telling him that you're not confident in the way you look. It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body. You are planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he he should date someone else who is more confident (and tolerant). Don't trash-talk other women. It makes you look really insecure.

4. Fishing for compliments. This is something that can drive a man crazy. Here is a typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really look beautiful tonight!" Ten minutes later, you look at him and ask, "How do I look tonight?" Stop fishing for compliments. Real compliments come from the heart. Allow us to compliment you when we really mean it. If we don't give a compliment at the exact moment you desire it, just accept it and be OK with that.

5. Clingy and possessive. You don't need to do everything together. You're still getting to know him. If there are things he likes to do that simply don't interest you, be cool with it. You don't have to be joined at the hip. If you are going to a cocktail party together, you don't have to be next to him at every moment. If you see him speaking with some woman at the party, do not immediately run over and start grabbing his hand and giving him a big hug -- and certainly don't do this all night long. You are being clingy and possessive when you do this.

6. Pushing friends on him. Avoid pushing friends on us too soon. Example: A woman will hang out with a guy on the first or second date and say to him, "You have to meet my friends Jenna and Amy. You also have to meet my friends Phil and Anne; they're such a great couple, and you'll love them!" A man hears this and thinks, "I don't even know you yet. Can I get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all of your friends and be put on display as 'the boyfriend?'" We don't want to be "the boyfriend" right away. It's too much pressure. We want to get to know you slowly and learn what you're all about. Believe me, once we get to know you -- and like you -- we will be more willing to get to know all of your friends.
Following these tips will help you get past the first month of a new relationship with a man and avoid some of the major pitfalls that can end a new relationship before it even starts. Be the confident woman you really are so we have a chance to embrace you. Don't scare us off before we have a chance to get to know you!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Finding Love Online

Is it possible to find a soul mate online through a dating service? You bet it is and with the right information, you will enjoy the entire process while staying safe. If you are ready to look for love online, you are certainly not alone. Currently, millions of singles from all over the world are using the power of the internet to meet other people and hopefully, build lifelong romantic connections.

The online dating services of today have changed dramatically over the years where now, you will find a service for every situation imaginable. For example, online dating sites of today feature romantic opportunities for people of all ages, financial status, religion, ethnic groups, and geographic locations.

The problem that most singles deal with is not having access to other singles. After all, you can only visit so many bars, restaurants, and coffee houses in hopes of meeting that someone special. For this reason, online dating is a phenomenal solution that provides access to people all across the globe easily, efficiently, conveniently, and affordably!

The technology of today allows you all kinds of options to ensure your dating experience is fun and successful. If you are ready to step up and give online dating a chance, the following tips will help you get started: ...

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Safe meetings via the Internet

1Use Metrodate Messaging Until You Are Comfortable
Using online messaging, you can determine whether a connection made through this service is worth exploring further. Use it until you feel comfortable that the person is being sincere.

2 Do Not Give Out Personal Information
At first, since your contact is anonymous by email, you need not give your full name, telephone number etc. to the other individual. Only after you feel comfortable should you exchange personal information.

3 Meet in a Public Place
Until you feel comfortable with someone, you should meet in a public place, where you feel safe.

4 Meet in a Group or Bring a Friend
If you decide to set up a personal meeting, it may be fun to go out in a group or to bring a friend along. This will make you feel more at ease.

5 Set Up Free Email For This Service
There are so many great free email systems out on the web, you should use it to your advantage. This is especially advisable for people accessing the internet from work. Just remember to write down your new password and member ID somewhere.

6 Ask For Personal References
If it will make you feel more comfortable, ask for a personal reference or two.

7 Do Not Buy Anything or Lend Money
In this day and age, scam artists appear everywhere, maybe even in the singles world. Don't let anyone scam you for money.

8 When You Give a Phone Number, Give Your Work Number
If you have some personal space in your office to talk on the phone, it may be best to give out that phone number first, should you decide to exchange numbers.

9 Exchange Photos Via Email or Regular Mail
If you want to be sure that the other person is telling the truth about their looks, ask for a picture.

10 Make Your Own Decision On Personal Meetings
Only you can decide whether you feel a personal meeting is worthwhile; listen to your own instincts.

Advice for young single moms

The lack of appeal probably isn't the way you look, it's the baggage. You have a child, and this tends to scare a lot of guys off, especially at your age.

If you think it's your appearance, make sure you aren't dressing like a mom. You can still dress like a 20-year-old when you're not out with your kids. And when talking about yourself on either on Metrodate or out at a bar, focus on yourself and not your kids.

Don't go out of the way to hide the fact that you have children, though and don't wait too long to mention it either. There's nothing worse than getting to know someone, becoming interested, and then having a bomb dropped on you.

Of course don't hide it, but don't keep talking about it constantly. Another option is to look for guys on Metrodate who also have kids -- you'll have something in common with them, and they'll understand your situation.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Long Distance Dating

You are surprised and excited at the same time. After spending months on an internet-dating website, you met some amazing people, along with a few that you were not too sure about. After talking to a few select people that were a little more special than others were, you finally met someone special – someone you really want to meet – someone with potential.

You both felt the attraction almost immediately. The conversations were interesting and always filled with surprises. It was as though every time you missed chatting for one day, you felt something missing. This was the time when you realized that this was not just any ordinary meeting but one destined for success.

Everything about this situation is perfect – almost. The only problem is that the person you have fallen in like with lives 500 miles from where you live. The drive is too far, the airline flight too expensive, and now the two of you are trying to figure out what to do. After all, this person is the one that has captured your heart – the person you want to meet and have been longing to get to know.

If this sounds all too familiar, you are certainly not alone. When it comes to online dating, this one scenario plays out time after time. Therefore, you need to be realistic about what your budget will support. That does not mean you should limit your possibilities of meeting someone living elsewhere, just that there could be more obstacles to cross if you do.

If this individual is truly someone that special, then try to make a minimum of one in-person trip, and more if possible, Additionally, it is important that you commit yourselves to daily phone conversations. With so many long-distance options today, you can buy a plan for only $39.95 a month for all the calling within the US you want.

Tips to Seducting Women

Mixed signals of attraction

Could you be more open and available to women? What signals can I send to a woman I might be attracted to? Men, who don't realize how important it is to express them, tend not to know what to do when they ... How to approach a woman and avoid rejection? Being a very shy man I lack some self-confidence, especially if I need to talk with women. I would love to ask a girl out, but am not sure how to approach her ... How to ask woman on a date even if she is a complete stranger? If you have the courage to approach woman, then that is fantastic but the only qualm that I have is that it is her area of work. How to find a woman you can grow with and learn from A woman is indeed interested in a relationship and a kiss would take place if I allowed it since I got nervous and shy the first time.

Signs of romantic interest


Emotional issues in dating separated women? When dating a divorced woman you have to deal with the emotional pain that person is feeling for the loss of a previous relationship. Falling in love being in a relationship: is woman attracted to you? Falling in love, being in a relationship; I never saw fitting into the picture, but in someway fortunately it did. Hoping ing for a second date who is supposed to call? I had a crush on a girl who was recently divorced. This was a girl, with great looks, great sense of humor. Shy and quite around girls - How to become more outgoing person? Despite the fact that girls has been very friendly to you it would be extremely difficult to determine whether the girl drew the heart to you.

Create bond and connection

A Woman make excuses - how to ask her out? I've had a crush on a girl for a while and I finally got the courage to ask her out. It seemed to me like she would be interested. Flirting history with a girl who had a boyfriend I had a flirting history with a girl who had a boyfriend and I was attracted to, but nothing happened. The most intimate thing that happened was a hug. How to create bond and connection with a woman? I have met a girl who I want to ask out. We are a reasonably close distance to each other and she is single. Men who find dates are the ones who don't let it bother them I met a woman whom I got attracted to over the time. She was very persistent in meeting me but I kept pushing the other direction.

Men's Guide to Conversation

Keeps the conversation going

Become confident in yourself and more open to women Relationship lasted only few months but it changed everything for me. I am so used to being on my own. Do you feel awkward and shy to make yourself out with women? What makes self-confident men? Self-confident men are these types of men are those that are confident on the inside, happy within themselves. How to be confident, talkative and flirty around girls? What you need is to be confident, talkative and flirty around women. Ask her open-ended questions and let her tell you about herself. How to propose woman date in a laid-back way? Although I'm stuck when it comes to approaching girls there I usually can spot signs of interest.

Tell if a woman is interested

Become friends gradually: tips to getting really close to woman Instead of just being a new passive group member show a keen interest in a woman. Develop relationship with a woman backwards Is it possible to develop a relationship with a woman when you have already been intimate with her? Getting involved with a woman whom you barely know Getting involved with anyone whom you don't know very well, can get very tricky. You need to establish if she's just looking for a flirt or not. Good flirting is paying attention to someone in a friendly interested way I haven't been in a relationship in almost 2 years because the last one just ended so badly that I was giving it up.

Injecting challenge into relationship

Accidentally made girlfriend break up with her old boyfriend I accidentally caused a girl to drop her boyfriend, but she still has some connections with me. How should I approach her now?
Girl always fights and seems nervous and uncomfortable A girl is always shy around me. I go to talk to her; she doesn't look me in the eyes. Yet she's always fighting, and she seems nervous or uncomfortable. How do you express my romantic interest to a woman? I've been fairly good friends with a girl until we got pretty interested in each other. It seems as though she's feeling the same sense of awkwardness. I could no longer think of anything to say a girl I've been fairly good friends with this girl I used to work with a while ago, but it was just that... friends, until a couple weeks ago when we started talking.